With over 20 years of experience
Neither one of you is the problem -
but you do have to solve it together.
WORK WITH shanna.
private therapy
In-person in McKinney & Plano, TX and virtually anywhere. Currently accepting new clients.
have more sex - the course
A no-fluff online course for couples ready to reignite their intimacy. Join on Skool for $27/month.
love, wilder show
Real answers to the questions you're too afraid to ask. New episodes every week.
you’re in the right place if…
Whatever you're navigating - relationship friction, intimacy loss, shame, trauma, or just the feeling that something important is missing - if it has to do with sex, relationships, or connection, this is a safe place to bring it.
All of it.
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You love each other but something has shifted. The distance feels bigger every day and you're not sure how you got here. I help you bridge that gap and build a vibrant and sexy relationship again.
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Whether you stayed or left, betrayal changes everything. You're trying to figure out who you are on the other side of it, but you need help.
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You didn’t choose this, but you've carried it for a long time. It shows up in your relationships and your body, and you're ready to put it down.
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Single and trying to figure out what you actually want - and why you keep ending up in the same patterns. You just know you want something different.
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You want information, support, and a professional who won't flinch. This is a kink-aware, non-monogamy affirming space.
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You deserve a therapist who gets it. This is an affirming, non-binary inclusive space where your uniqueness and relationship is celebrated.
meet shanna wilder
Life is hard. I know.
I've spent 20 years sitting across from people in their most vulnerable moments - couples who've lost each other, individuals carrying shame they've never spoken aloud, people navigating relationships that don't fit anyone else's definition. I don't flinch. I don't judge. And I don't sugarcoat.
My clients describe me as direct, big-hearted, and easy to talk to. I believe the best therapy feels less like a clinical appointment and more like finally talking to someone who gets it - and tells you the truth.
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Love, Wilder show
Every week, sex therapist Shanna Wilder and producer Sid Hoffpauir take your real questions and give you real answers — on intimacy, desire, relationships, kink, infidelity, and everything in between. No clinical distance. No sugarcoating. Just the conversation you've been needing.
New episodes every week. Nothing is off the table.
Free Resources from Shanna
Get two free guides — instantly.
Real, actionable tools from a sex therapist with 20 years of experience. No fluff, no filler. Just the stuff that actually works.
Guide 1 - 6 Tips for Wilder Communication: The exact framework Shanna uses in session to help couples have hard conversations without it blowing up.
Guide 2 - 4 Ways to Bring Back the Romance: Small, immediate steps to start closing the distance - because you don't have to fix everything at once to feel better today.
